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What are the most effective ways to handle your lingering lingerer coworker who overstays his or her welcome?

Here are a few options.
1. Put a time a limit on the conversation
When Bob stops by to chat immediately establish a time boundary. Let Bob know that you have two minutes to chat and if he foresees the conversation going longer that it would be best to put time on the calendar instead

2. Hit it and quit it
When Bob stops by and lingers don't put a time limit just be nice and briefly engage him and then politely disengage him by saying you have to get back to work and that you would love to talk more later once your work is complete

3. Ignore the lingerer
This isn't the gentlest or most godly choice but its an option nonetheless when Bob is the type of person who just doesn't get the polite hints to go away. So, when Bob stops by to chat simply be short. Give little attention to what he has to say, continue to work and don't make eye contact

 
 
4. Ask the lingerer to leave
When all else fails you have to be direct. When Bob pulls up a chair, kicks back and begins to frolic ask him to leave and come back later or better yet open up your calendar and let Bob know that you'll put time on the calendar to do lunch sometime over the next month

5. Fake having to leave or having to take a call
If you are afraid to be direct and Bob is oblivous to the hints then when Bob comes up to chat and you realize it's not work related you can let him know that you have a call that you have to make, medicine with a glass a water that you need to take or a bathroom break that cannot wait
 
6. Just walk away
When Bob approaches you to chat just get up and walk Bob back towards his office
 
 
Remember in all times be gentle and kind yet firm.